Queer Couples Therapy
Every relationship has its ups and downs, but it’s hard feeling disconnected from the person you love. Couples therapy gives you space to slow down, talk through issues, identify harmful patterns, and feel more understood by your partner.
What shows up in therapy?
Your relationship moved fast (maybe very fast) and somehow you’ve ended up feeling more like roommates than partners
You’re avoiding talking about that thing that you REALLY need to talk about but don’t know how to
Desire has shifted in ways you didn’t expect during you or your partner’s transition
Opening up your relationship made sense in theory but feels harder in practice
You have the same fight over and over again that never gets resolved
Somewhere along the way you stopped having sex but you don't know why
The term "lesbian bed death" has crossed your mind and has you questioning things
Neurodivergence is part of your relationship, and it's leaving one or both of you feeling misunderstood
One of you is navigating gender dysphoria which makes certain kinds of touch or closeness feel complicated
The relationship worked well before one of you came out, but now needs to be rebuilt in ways that neither of you anticipated
You feel like your partner doesn’t listen to what you want or need anymore
Family stress is having a negative impact on your relationship
You’re a straight-passing couple and carry grief about the parts of your identity that feel invisible
One partner is further out of the closet than the other(s) and that gap is creating distance
How can couples therapy help?
I'm trained in Relational Life Therapy (RLT). It's direct, it's honest, and it names how you both play a role in your conflict, without attaching blame. My clients have absolutely loved it so far. You’ll learn how to:
Say what you mean without it turning into a big fight
Catch yourself before defensiveness or shutting down takes over
Rebuild trust and actually feel emotionally safe with each other again
Break the cycle on the argument you keep having, for good
Recognize when you're defaulting to control, being right, withdrawing, or lashing out, and choose something else instead
Stop old family patterns from running the show in your relationship
Own your part in the conflict, without spiraling into shame about it
Ask for what you need without over-explaining or bracing for the fallout
Show up and be present with each other, even when things get hard
Treat each other like equals again, not like someone to manage, fix, or win against
Find your way back to the intimacy, trust, and connection you used to have
Learn how to repair after an argument instead of just moving on and hoping it doesn't happen again
Get better at reading what's actually going on for your partner instead of assuming the worst
Discuss what you need to feel secure during the hard conversations, so they stop feeling so scary
Start working as a team again
Feel like you're falling in love with each other again, not just coexisting
Training & Experience
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Sex Therapy: Assessment, Referrals, & Best Practices
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Relational Life Therapy (Couples) Level 1 + 2
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Trans Care BC Gender Affirming Primary Care