Relationships & Dating
Relationships shape how we see ourselves, and sometimes we lose pieces of ourselves inside them. This is a space to understand your patterns and build connection that doesn't cost you your sense of self.
What shows up in therapy?
You merge with partners so much that you forget who you are outside of your relationships
Your partner is transitioning and you find yourself questioning what that means about your own identity
Not being out to family is making dating feel difficult
You’re wondering if monogamy is right for you and are curious about alternative relationship structures
You just broke up with the love of your life and are feeling absolutely shattered in the aftermath of it all
You're dating as a neurodivergent person, in a world built for neurotypical dating norms
Your body doesn't feel like yours during sex and that disconnect is hard to explain to others
You’re scared of being alone so you settle for relationships that you know aren’t right
You feel deflated after having your bisexuality dismissed or invalidated while dating
You don’t know if you should break up with your partner or keep trying to make it work
You always pick the same kind of partners (which isn’t working out very well) and want to break out of that cycle
You have problems in your relationships due to your feelings about being a lesbian, gay, or queer
You're dating as a neurodivergent person, in a world built for neurotypical dating norms
Your relationships never seem to work out and you’re not quite sure what’s going wrong
Your last relationship went badly and you’re afraid to get involved with anyone else incase it happens again
How can therapy help?
Reconnect with who you are outside of your relationships, not just who you are inside them
Learn about the parts of you that show up in dating and relationships, and what they're trying to protect you from
Understand the stories you've been telling yourself about queer love, and start writing new ones that actually feel good
Figure out what you actually want in a relationship, instead of what feels familiar, safe, or what you feel like you “should” want
Separate old wounds from what's happening in your relationship right now
Break uncomfortable cycles that you keep repeating
Sit with grief, loss, or heartbreak without rushing yourself through it
Build confidence in who you are, so it isn’t linked to you being in a relationship
Feel more at home in your body and your relationship to sex and intimacy
Get honest with yourself about what you're settling for, and why you’re doing it
Find the words for experiences that have felt hard to explain to other people
Explore how you feel about monogamy and whether a different kind of relationship structure would actually feel better for you
Notice when you're shrinking yourself or overcompensating to keep a relationship together
Work through fears around being alone and figure out where they’re coming from
Make sense of family patterns or dynamics that keep showing up in who you pick and how you love
Feel more grounded in yourself during and after a breakup
Get support figuring out what you need in order to actually trust someone again
Training & Experience
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Sex Therapy: Assessment, Referrals, & Best Practices
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Relational Life Therapy (Couples) Level 1 + 2
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Trans Care BC Gender Affirming Primary Care